Buff Woman Receives Insults For Her Looks On Facebook And Her Response Is Perfect

Often times people judge and make assumptions about others based on looks rather than getting to know them. An unfortunate truth is that we have probably been on both sides at one point or another. Why is it that others feel the need to put people down to make themselves feel better?

Stephanie Holdmeyer and her boyfriend Chris are passionate about their health and fitness. The couple often spend time together at the gym working out. Recently Stephanie found a Facebook post talking about her and Chris, and it definitely wasn’t kind. The writer of the post said Stephanie and Chris were arrogant because they have super toned bodies. They assumed that just because the two wear a lifting belt that they were showing off.

You make my heart so full ❤️

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We aren’t sure why the post-er would assume that just because the couple had banging bodies that they would automatically be jerks. The post was hurtful to read, especially because the reason Stephanie wears a brace is because she had back surgery. Because of her back surgery, the only way Stephanie could continue to workout was with the brace.

Stephanie soon realized that she wasn’t the only one being judged at the gym. At some point in time, everyone at the gym is made to feel like they don’t belong, whether they are overweight or thin. So Stephanie decided to post an open letter to bullies on Facebook.

When Chris & I first started working out at the Rec, we were judged hardcore. Someone even posted on Facebook about the "buff couple" & how they "thought they're hot shit because they wear their belts all the time". This was about two months after my back surgery & I did indeed wear my lifting belt during almost all of my workouts for support. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀ My point is, everyone gets judged. People don't bother to understand where you're coming from or why you do the things you do. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀ That overweight guy? Someone judges him because of his weight, but little do they know he's already lost 100 pounds & has changed his entire life around. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀ That guy with the skinny legs? He's had seven knee surgeries & he's currently trying to strengthen his legs. It's just a long hard process. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀ That skinny girl you think "really needs to eat"? She's actually super self conscious about her thin figure & has been trying to gain weight, but her metabolism is super high. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀ That kid who follows you around & watches everything you do? He looks up to you and wants to learn your workouts, he's just scared to approach you. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀ That girl with really bad form? She had to mentally prepare to enter the weight room because she was terrified of people judging her. She second guesses every exercise, but she's too intimidated to ask anyone for advice. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀ That buff dude you think is cocky? He grew up in poverty and working out was his alternative to drugs or alcohol. He's not cocky-just focused. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀ That woman taking too long on the equipment you want? She's a single mom exhausted from working two jobs & raising three kids. She's trying to push herself to finish her workout, but she needs a little extra rest between sets. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀ That old man doing strange exercises and talking too much? He decided to get a gym membership to stay active & socialize after his wife passed away last year. Talking to you makes his day & has helped his depression. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀ There is more to people than what you see. Instead of jumping to conclusions or making judgements, take a moment to consider someone else's perspective. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀ Don't judge a book by its cover.

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Stephanie wrote:

“When Chris and I first started working out at the Rec, we were judged hardcore. Someone even posted on Facebook about the ‘buff couple’ and how they, ‘thought they’re hot sh*t because they wear their belts all the time.’ This was about two months after my back surgery and I did indeed wear my lifting belt during almost all of my workouts for support….My point is, everyone gets judged. People don’t bother to understand where you’re coming from or why you do the things you do.”

"What keeps you motivated?" ⠀⠀ ⠀ ⠀⠀ ⠀ My answer: "Myself" ⠀⠀ ⠀ I usually get a blank stare or a "that's all you got?" in return. But to me, that one word sums it up perfectly. ⠀⠀ ⠀ ⠀⠀ ⠀ I work hard for myself. I show up EVERY SINGLE DAY for myself. Not for someone else. Not because I want to show off or impress anyone. I don't do it to compete or to win. I'm not trying to prove anything to anyone else. ⠀⠀ ⠀ ⠀⠀ ⠀ I do it for myself. Simply because I want to be better. ⠀⠀ ⠀ ⠀⠀ ⠀ Motivation for other things can fade. You get a significant other and decide you can let your body slide or you decide you "don't have time" or your contest is over and you don't have a reason to train. Now you need a new reason to keep you going. But when you are motivated purely because you want to challenge and better yourself, you are motivated every day of your life. ⠀⠀ ⠀ ⠀⠀ ⠀ Some days you show up to kill your workout or smash a new PR. Other days you show up sick, tired, injured or weak, and you fight like hell just to make it through and prove to yourself you can. Either way, you are fighting your battle for the day and striving to be better, stronger, and more resilient. ⠀⠀ ⠀ I don't have a secret to motivation. There is no magic insight or revelation. The key to motivation is YOU. ⠀⠀ ⠀ Be your own motivation.

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“That overweight guy? Someone judges him because of his weight, but little do they know he’s already lost 100 pounds and has changed his entire life around. That guy with the skinny legs? He’s had seven knee surgeries and he’s currently trying to strengthen his legs. It’s just a long hard process. That skinny girl you think, ‘really needs to eat?’ She’s actually super self conscious about her thin figure and has been trying to gain weight, but her metabolism is super high.That kid who follows you around and watches everything you do? He looks up to you and wants to learn your workouts, he’s just scared to approach you.”

“There’s more to people than what you see. Instead of jumping to conclusions or making judgements, take a moment to consider someone else’s perspective.  Moral of the story fat, thin, in shape, old, young: Don’t judge a book by its cover.”