Our Kissing style is hardwired

Kissing is born in our heads, not our hearts…

Thoughts leading up to an actual kiss can be agonizing.However, once we start… kissing… how much do we actually think through the…process? If we thought through every move- wouldn’t that be a little tedious? A new study took on those types of questions and their answer- the whole process is mostly automated.

That moment- the reddening of your cheeks, the butterflies- it may all be the result of an elaborate cerebral dance, if you will, between the kisser and the kissed.

The study learned that our brains typically tell our heads to tilt. with over ⅔ of kissers tilting to the right. Research also noted in male/female couples, men made the first move 79% of the time.

The first study of its kind

The study itself focused on 48 couples living in Bangladesh. The couples kissed privately, then separated to answer  series of questions. The study is the first to show a real separation in sexes, with the males being the initiator, which modulates the responses of the females.  Bangladesh was the best area for research since the country sensors such acts from the media, so the residents take their kissing cues not from the old boob-tube, but from what comes naturally.

The study also found that if the person initiating the kiss was left-handed, their head would likely tilt in that direction. The person being kissed, regardless of handedness, responded by leaning their head to the left as well. If partners mirrored each other’s head tilts instead, kissing would frequently end up in awkward head bumps instead of a smooth, lip to lip kiss.

So, why does the brain encourage a right-tilt when kissing?  Aside from handedness, the researchers suggest the mind splits tasks between hemispheres. When hormones like testosterone surge, it may create an imbalance on one particular side of the brain — and result in a tilt to the right.

Hormones can sometimes throw us off balance. And they likely wash over us in the moment that we decide to lock lips with someone.