Emotionally Strong Leaders Have These Habits

Emotionally strong people circumvent common pitfalls that derail success. Let’s look at a few other mistakes that these leaders avoid:

1. They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves.

There is nothing worse than being in the company of perpetual bellyachers. Their complaints spread like a virus, infecting those around  them.

Do you know what else is contagious? Optimism. Resilience. But it takes emotional strength to build immunity against grumbling, and you need true leadership to inoculate the rest of an organization.

2. They avoid giving away their power.

Average people don’t like to see motivated people achieve. That’s why they try to lure you into another round when they know you have a 9 a.m. presentation, or temper your positive outlook with their negative energy.

Every time you give into them, you relinquish a bit of your power. If you keep letting them get to you, they’ll drain you entirely.

But as much as healthy relationships nurture dreams, unhealthy ones inhibit them. You might have to quit some friends, but it is a guarantee you’ll find like-minded companions to take their place.

3. They focus on what they can change, not what they can’t.

So many people waste energy fretting about things they can’t control—lost luggage, long lines, other people’s actions.

Will Bowen, an author and minister who founded the Complaint Free World movement has donated more than 11 million purple bracelets in 106 countries to remind people to silence their complaints, and spin that negative energy into something positive and productive. He says, “Complaining is like bad breath. You notice it when it comes out of somebody else’s mouth, but not your own.”

4. They refuse to repeat mistakes.

Mentally tough people are self-reflective people. They set aside a portion of each evening to review what transpired during the day. This exercise is not about dwelling on errors, self-chastising or longing for do-overs. Rather, it’s a way to take stock of what went well and how to replicate that success, and then analyzing what didn’t go right and how to prevent similar errors.