A Tailor With No Arms!

A man is teaching us the importance of being thankful for what you have and going the extra mile.

Forty-five year old Madan Lal is a fighter. Though he was born with no arms, that didn’t stop him. He has learned to adapt to his life by simply using his feet!

Madan is able to do almost anything on his own, despite his obvious disability. His first big stumbling block being that he was denied entry into school because of his condition.

Lal, who was born in Haryana, India was disappointed by the prejudice that he received and decided he was going to make something of himself without school. He knew he had to support himself and neither he or his family could afford an education. So, he decided to become a tailor.  His next obstacle was trying to find someone to train him in his chosen profession.

At 23-years-old he started his search for a tailor who would train him, but everyone sent him away, laughing and saying no one could be a tailor with no arms. He returned to his village, but refused to give up. He went to Fathabah looking for a tailor he had heard of. At first, he also denied him, but Lal demanded he be given the chance.

When he finally said ok, Lal gave it everything he had and in 15 days, he knew he would be successful. His teacher’s positive words pushed him and he took a step further.

Within a year, he had opened his own shop in his village and absorbed everything he could. He forgot his past struggles and was thrilled to be able to open the doors to his shop.

“That day I forgot all the sufferings. It was the best day of my life. I saw people coming to my shop to greet me. The whole village was happy as if they were part of my family.”

His struggles were not quite over as some still doubted his abilities. Soon, however, they came to realize his talents and, even with stitching and cutting with his feet, he was the best tailor around.

 

Personal Commandments to Obtain Happiness

Gretchen Rubin’s book,  The Happiness Project, has created a movement. The book has spurned blogs and “Happiness Project” groups around the globe.

One of the most completed tasks from the book is to write twelve personal commandments. These are not specific tasks like do the dishes, but principals that you should try to live by to obtain the happiness we are all looking to achieve.

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Consider sayings or phrases that have stuck with you

You may find that several are actually quotes from other people that meant a lot to you.

Fight the urge to be too comprehensive, but set your goals high

You should review your list daily and keep it fresh in your mind. It should be short and easy to remember.

If at first you cannot create 12, start smaller and build as you can.

Create the list for YOU- not what is true for others

Everyone who creates a list will be different. It should be a reflection of you, your interests, values, strengths and weaknesses.

REMEMBER: This is YOUR list, it can change as you need it to, can apply to various situations, and you can keep it private, or share it with others. Your Choice! These commandments should be a guide to feeling happy. They should help you make better decisions and be a reminder when you are feeling lost when it comes to happiness. These are not necessarily tasks so much as principles to live by.

If you need help getting started, below are Gretchen Rubin’s personal commandments.  

  • Be Gretchen
  • Let it go.
  • Act the way I want to feel.
  • Do it now.
  • Be polite and be fair.
  • Enjoy the process.
  • Spend out.
  • Identify the problem.
  • Lighten up.
  • Do what ought to be done.
  • No calculation.
  • There is only love.

Other great ideas: Do you. Be the bigger person. Make a decision and move on. Don’t apologize unless you need to. Let relationships go. Introduce yourself. Be lenient. Say yes. Say no.Do stuff. Talk to Strangers. Stay in Touch. Make haste to be kind. Dig Deep. Less is More. Smaller.

Years Of Infertility Leads To Miracle!

Alex and Gabe knew that they wanted to start a family right away after their marriage. And, for the next 4 years, they tried. They underwent multiple rounds of fertility treatments and in-vitro fertilization. Gabe, wanting to do all he could, visited a urologist, and Alexis changed her diet. Sadly, after their continued efforts, they suffered two miscarriages and many more negative pregnancy tests.

The couple decided to try adoption when a viable pregnancy did not seem to be in the cards, but they knew they were supposed to be parents.  Sadly, more heartbreak came as they found adoption to be  just as difficult and painful as their struggles with infertility. On more than one occasion, the couple would celebrate upon finding that a child was waiting, only to be devastated when the adoption fell through.

Even after all of the failures, the couple never gave up. They never considered that they would not be parents. They just wondered how much pain they would have to endure before their dream became a reality.

Their infertility struggle was documented on a show called The Doctors. After their initial visit to the show, they returned a second time to announce that they had received a call from an adoption agency and finally their dream of parenthood was coming true. They were getting a baby!

That, in itself, was a miracle. However, just a week after their announcement, a second miracle happened.

Alexis, who was no longer on fertility treatments, discovered that she was pregnant!

What a blessing for a family that waited so long to be blessed with not one, but two babies!

“It’s a miracle,” Alexis said joyfully. “It was meant to be!”

Stop Being Busy…Become Valuable

How many hours do you work in a week? 30, 40…60? How much of that time is spent on projects that will simply be repeated the following week? Most individuals think that if they increase the hours that they spend at work, they will increase their productivity. The harder you work, the better, right? Or are you a multi-tasker? Checking messages, listening to a marketing meeting while you are scribbling your grocery list. We are all guilty of falling short of necessary focus to successfully complete what is laid out before us.

The Art of Focus, a program created by Shane Parrish, is touted as showing a feasible process to increase focusing capacity. It allows you to accomplish difficult things by learning to put your full attention on one item at a time, rather than multitasking. The program suggests that multitasking is not possible, rather it is a way to trick yourself into believing you are accomplishing more by doing several things at a time when, in fact, your brain is quickly flipping back and forth between the tasks you are attempting to complete simultaneously, causing fragmentation and not actually completing these things at the same time.

Parrish says that focus is more like a superpower and should be harnessed to achieve extraordinary results. He states you have to do really hard things to accomplish anything in today’s society. You also need to focus your attention on things that matter- things that you will be proud of in the future rather than mundane tasks that you simply repeat with no real positive outcome. You should be deliberate in everything- structuring your time, attacking your schedule, and driving your agenda in the direction you want it to go in.

Focusing is difficult, and like a muscle you must exercise it for it to maintain the strength necessary to allow you to harness its power to achieve great things. The following is the points that the AofF covers, though there is not a lot of detail, the site gives you the opportunity to pay a fee and become a part of the program.

What is The Art of Focus?

The Art of Focus is the art of accomplishing difficult things by learning to put all your attention on one thing at a time. Accomplishing the extraordinary involves:

  1. Deciding where and how you can create real value professionally, and putting other things aside.
  2. Proactively managing the type of work you spend the majority of your time on.
  3. Figuring out effective ways to plan and use your time.
  4. Implementing actual strategies to get people to leave you alone (and not mind doing so).
  5. Creating the right environment so you can focus.

Husband Praises Nurse Wife

Last year, Phillip Urtz posted a photo of his wife Jessica eating lunch alone by herself at work. It looks like a little bit of a sad photo, but it’s one of the more peaceful moments of Jessica’s day. She’s a nurse at a busy hospital in New York and often doesn’t get time during her 14 hour days to take a break besides her lunch, so simply getting to sit down and eat in quiet has got to feel pretty incredible.

Phillip posted the photo to draw awareness to how hard nurses work for the benefit of sick people. Doctors often get all the credit, and they definitely should be praised for their work, but nurses also pull long hours and often get more facetime with their patients. They give the job their full effort and attention, and it can sometimes wear them down unless they can find the time to sit and reflect on the impact they’re making. Sometimes Jessica comes home and is energized and happy, Phillip reports. Sometimes she’s sad and withdrawn. However, she rarely wants to talk about work.

His post read: “At work she takes care of people who are having the worst days of their lives. Strokes, Car accidents, motorcycle accidents, falls, breaks, brain damage and more. She takes care of mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, friends and families. It doesn’t matter who you are or what happened. She will take care of you. She works through lunch and rarely has time to sit. She comes home after 14 hours, takes off her shoes that have walked through blood and tears, and just wants to sit down. I don’t ask her about her day because She doesn’t like to talk about work when she is home and that’s fine. If she does want to talk, I will listen.” In our minds, they’re both heroes.