When Moving in With a Significant Other Goes Awry, and How to Compromise

Deciding how to decorate your home with your partner isn’t always a piece of cake. If you’re struggling to agree a home decor solution that works for you and your partner, you aren’t alone. You might want one thing and they want another, finding that comprise isn’t always easy but it doesn’t mean you have to take the fight all the way to the therapist’s office. But don’t just take our word for it, keep on reading to see how real couples overcame some tricky moments in home decorating.

Liz Kot of Long Beach New York fought to prove that kitchen cabinets are not basically dressers.

“When I moved in with my boyfriend—now my fiancé—he was living in a house he’d been gutting and renovating for a year. I went from a perfectly pristine apartment to unfurnished chaos; he was even using extra kitchen cabinets as dressers. After three months of this, I told him if we didn’t get some bedroom furnishings, I would slowly die. But when we finally went furniture shopping, suddenly he had an opinion on everything: He wanted wood, I wanted upholstery. Eventually I took the initiative and narrowed the selections to three options that seemed to mesh both of our styles.”

Design differences aren’t the end of the world. According to a study from Home Goods study, 93% of couples disagree on a home decor decision at some point. Finding a compromise is key. Jill Hosking-Cartland, founder of Hosking Interiors says, “You can do the legwork and limit the options. Or you can hire an interior designer or decorator who is trained to help you find something that will appeal to both your sensibilities. This process is easier when you have a neutral party whose sole goal is to see both parties happy.” What are these amazing stories just waiting to help? Pottery Barn, West Elm, Ethan Allen, and Room & Board.

Julie Heller from New York New York found on the hard way that colors clash.

“My then boyfriend/now husband and I had been dating about a month when he painted the walls in his bedroom a dark brown color. It was awful!  So I just got up one day and grabbed some old paint cans that were his leftovers and mixed a pale neutral tan/beige color and painted straight over the dark umber that was there. He was shocked at first, but deep down I think he admired my ‘get it done’ approach.”

If your color picks have clashed, you aren’t alone, that same Home Goods study found that for 44% of couples, color is one of the home decor disagreements. If you’re struggling to pick one, why not pick two? A great compromise to opting for an accent wall, not only will it look awesome, but you’ll both feel like design winners.

Jo Smith of Los Angeles CA worked her but off to keep the milk crates at the dairy and not in the home.